Vaginismus: It’s Okay to Feel Angry

I have found something interesting while working with vaginismus patients. Many of them are angry. Most of them don’t seem angry when they first come in. They seem sad, hopeless, confused, and afraid. I most often have the urge to put my arms around them and say “It’ll be okay. I promise you.” But oftentimes …

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What We Can All Learn from Polyamory

I came across an interesting article recently about what we can all learn from polyamory. What is polyamory? Polyamory is defined as “a form of consensual non-monogamy that emphasizes emotional and sexual intimacy with multiple partners simultaneously, ideally with the knowledge of all parties involved.”  While we may not all want to be in a polyamorous …

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OSCARS AND KEGELS- AN UNLIKELY PAIR!

Every year, I eagerly wait to hear what treats will be inside the Oscar goody bag. Drum roll: This years’ Oscar swag bag included a limited edition Elvie which is a pelvic floor exercise tracker; a Fit Bit for kegels! The Elvie boasts “better core strength, control, and better sex “as it coaches you through your kegels and measures …

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Ditch The Label: Video

I recently watched this video and thought it did a great job illustrating the effect that social media has on our lives and how it has, in some ways, turned us into 24/7 PR representatives for ourselves.  There are many merits to technology and social media, and the fact that we no longer need to …

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MonaLisa Touch: Is It Right For You?

Millions of women experience changes in their vaginal health that interfere with their personal lives during the post-menopause years. These changes are the result of decreased estrogen. Problems include vaginal laxity, decreased lubrication, painful intercourse, urinary incontinence, pouty labia and fissures at the opening of the vagina. Many women suffer in silence. Those who seek …

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Porn Statistics

Call me a nerd but I am fascinated by statistics of internet searches on porn sites. I feel like ever since I read A Billion Wicked Thoughts, I am very sensitive to the fact that the only way to gather accurate data about who really likes what, who is really looking for what and what our habits are around …

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What is all the rage about Gratitude?

I must admit, that I can be a skeptic when I hear the term “gratitude”. Gratitude can be defined as, “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.” The idea of encouraging gratitude or keeping a gratitude journal has been offered countless times in trainings and workshops I have attended as …

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My Neighbor, Myself — Loving Both

The Biblical verse “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” has been drummed into many of us.  What especially strikes me in my work at Congtythamtu Women’s Health is that we can easily be a good friend to others but ironically, self-compassion is hard to come by. A useful exercise to move away from self-criticism …

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A New Form Of Male Contraception

I am so excited about a new form of male birth control.  According to a new study, a new form of male contraceptive has been successfully trialed on a group of 16 monkeys and has prevented pregnancies for over 2 years of testing. The new male contraceptive is called Vaselgel. It’s mechanism of action is …

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