Sex and shame.

Shame is one of those things that is universally experienced but spoken about minimally, yet it is an incredibly powerful force in the way we perceive ourselves and our relationships. People feel shame about a variety of issues in their lives. For women, shame around their bodies and sexuality is unfortunately very common and can …

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How to love, and books that can help.

In my last blog entry, I talked about a hypothetical college course teaching young adults how to love. The more I think about this idea the more vital I think it is. Because so many marriages end in divorce wouldn’t it be helpful if young people had more education and guidance around such an important …

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Embrace your body campaign.

Can you imagine a world where women embrace their bodies at every stage of their life? Can you imagine the changes that would occur on this earth? Taryn Brumfitt is raising money to create a documentary that will unite women across the globe to love their bodies. Check it out here.

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On talking to your (adult) kids about sex.

So here’s one to file under “great communication between mother and adult son.” A patient told us the other day that she had downloaded Fifty Shades of Grey to her kindle and really enjoyed reading it. Then she started laughing and said that when she downloaded the book, it hadn’t really occurred to her that …

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Minus one.

When a couple faces sexual dysfunction, in one or both partners, it can be a difficult and heartbreaking journey that challenges the foundation of the relationship. But let’s talk about what sexual dysfunction means for a woman who is single. For most women it doesn’t just feel like there is no ‘ one’ in the …

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Going oral.

In her new book An Intimate Life, sex surrogate Cheryl Cohen Greene (the one portrayed by Helen Hunt in The Sessions) describes her work with a man who has been unable to get an erection with his wife. After much exploration, it is discovered that the source of his problem is a very simple one: …

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Attachment theory and addiction.

As any reader of my blogs know, I am obsessed with attachment theory. The basic reason being that I think it makes so much sense of relationships. For so long I thought love and relationships were mysterious and miraculous. I still think a relationship that works well is pretty much miraculous but the reason why …

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