Holiness and sex ed.

This Blog Entry was originally posted on the Sisterhood. “His main premise is that young people will tune out educators if their real concerns are left in the shadows.” In the end, that perhaps was the most important line of all in the recent New York Times Magazine article, “Teaching Good Sex,” by Laurie Abraham. …

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Sex Week at Yale — Part 2.

Continued from Wednesday….. For the most part it seems that Sex Week became a way to highlight diversity and kink with sex. I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I think exposing people who are interested in non-vanilla sex is useful and there aren’t too many safe arenas in which this can happen. However, it …

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Sex Week at Yale — Part 1.

Yale University cancelled Sex Week. Well, they didn’t actually cancel it, they merely told the organizers they could no longer use the Yale name or Yale funding. I thought this was pretty interesting not only because it’s been a slow news week on the sex front (Herman Cain and the Penn State scandal not withstanding) …

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“The Sex Bible.”

The Sex Bible is a book worth having. The pictures are explicit, and some of the best imagery I have seen for helping couples with sexual positions. It also includes many, many tips from how to give good oral sex to the best porn for women. I recommend this book at the center for couples …

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Fantasies.

A patient and I spoke today about her fantasies, or more accurately about her lack of them and how important fantasies can be in keeping up one’s interest in sex. Part of the reason she doesn’t think she can get what she wants in her fantasy is that she believes she is unattractive by common …

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Some aspects of women’s (hetero)sexual desire

Ninth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. Sex and sensibility. Romance literature, according to the authors of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, is the most popular form of fiction in the world. It’s estimated that the total yearly revenues from the …

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Suffering.

In my work and in my life, I see a great deal of suffering. The thing that always touches me is how significantly someone’s suffering can be relieved when they share about it. The thing most people really want is connection, and when we suffer we need to feel connected to others even more. Several …

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When your kids are uncomfortable talking about sex.

I heard a sweet story yesterday and I thought I’d share it about a mother who has been trying to talk to her 10 year-old daughter about sex. Although she feels that her daughter listens, she had not been getting much feedback or questions. She discovered that, while her daughter feels too awkward and uncomfortable …

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If Barbie had a labia.

Labia, which is the Latin term for lips, are the skin folds that the encircle the vaginal entrance, consisting of the labia majora (outer lips)and labia minora (inner lips). The coloration and size of every woman’s labia is different. And a woman’s labia changes over time. In girls, who have not yet gotten their periods, …

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Traveling with sex toys.

A Transportation Security Administration (TSA) employee was fired last week for allegedly leaving a note (“Get your freak on, girl”), on a traveler’s sex toy. Hmmm…I have to be honest, when I heard the report on the radio driving home I cracked up. Admittedly, the story wasn’t really funny. It was, I’m sure, quite upsetting …

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