Smart kids and sex.

We have every excuse in the book why we don’t talk to our children about sex. A favorite one is: “they are not ready.” I think we really like to believe that our children are innocent and can’t handle information on sex. That is just not true and study after study suggests that the more …

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Desire and depression.

Sometimes, when women come into the center with low desire we talk to them about anti=depressants. The reaction isn’t always good: “You think I’m depressed? I’mhere to talk about my lack of sex drive!” Life situations and hormones can play a role in depression. Serotonin, the hormone normally associated with depression, isn’t the only culprit. …

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From the sex counselors point of view…

Often people will ask me how I got into this field and why I do what I do. First, let me explain what I do. I work with women who have sexual dysfunction and help to treat from a behavioral and medical standpoint. These issues range from low desire, difficulty with arousal and lubrication, difficulty …

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For the mothers of teen girls…

 I just discovered a fun new book: Deal With it: A Whole new Approach to Your Body, Brain and Life. (By Drill, McDonald and Odes) It’s not a new book, but it’s chatty, comprehensive and fun to read. But it’s very explicit and so you may want to check it out and make sure you’re …

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Teaching kids about sex.

There is so much controversy about how to teach kids about sex. In general I’m a proponent of “the more you know, the more prepared you are and the better choices you can make.” Recently a new curriculum came out that was touted as “abstinence only.” That tends to be a major red flag for …

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Women’s sexuality changes through life.

Don’t we know it? What you loved when you were 18 might be totally different than what gets you going at 30 and may be completely different than what turns you on at 45. Different life experience make us appreciate new things, new images may become imbedded in our brains, we may become more experimental …

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Apology letter to a vibrator.

Dear Vibrator, I am so sorry. I placed you in a drawer months ago and have not sought you out since. Please understand, though I enjoyed you, I got nervous that this may be the only way I can orgasm. My orgasms with you were intense and powerful and would occur like clock-work 10 minutes …

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