Why does lube get such a bad rap?

I am always surprised at the people who do not use lube because they designate it for a particular person…usually an older woman or some one who cannot get easily aroused. Many times I will hear, “I don’t need that”. Lube can be for everyone! Lube can make it easier for a number of things. …

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But its not real sex…

There are so many fun things to do with your partner that can bring you closer together, that doesnt always end in intercourse. These “fun things” are usually referred to as foreplay, a word most of us in the sexuality field hate! Because it insinuates that those “fun things” only have BEFORE the real event, …

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To use hormones or not to use hormones…

I get asked this all the time by perimenopausal and post menopausal women. And my answer always is…“It depends.” Once upon a time women used to have to suffer with hot flushes, memory loss, loss of libido and sleep disturbances. Then along came the hormone therapy like a white knight on a horse and made …

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On pain…

If one more patient comes in and tells me she has spent a year with a therapist talking about the pain in her vagina and low and behold she still has the pain…I will get up and scream. Really. I promise. I can’t stand it. I can’t stand the ridiculous notion that “it is all …

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