Abstinence on college campuses.

The New York Times magazine had an article on the new “trend” in abstinence on college campuses. They don’t look so new to me. I am constantly curious why people can’t just feel free to make their own decisions about their sexual activity without turning it into a cause of sorts. Well, come to your …

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“Just do it?”

I was recently having a conversation with an OB/GYN about low sexual desire in women. We were discussing treatment options, when he said; “I tell my patients to do it the Nike way, you know, Just do it.” I didn’t know what to say. I stood there in total silence, somewhat horrified and offended. Shocked …

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Lichen planus and vulvodynia.

I just read a moving and sad article in Self Magazine about lichen planus and vulvodynia. A young women talks about her vaginal pain and how it has shamed her and ruined her sex life. Vaginal intercourse became excruciatingly painful and none of her gynecologists could see any problem and so everyone thought it was …

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Viagra celebrates 10 years.

Viagra has been around for 10 years. The NY Daily News did a great article today on the anniversary of Viagra.  In the article, the reporter quoted two of the experts from our blog: Michael A. Werner, MD, FACS, a specialist in sexual dysfunction and Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD, and Clinical Director of The …

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Let’s get real…

Okay — so here is a great video from YouTube. (Many thanks to Rosa Lynne for forwarding this great clip.) First it will make you chuckle. Then it will make you think. Maybe it’s time we didn’t fall for all the hype and glitz the media tries to sell about sex. Also, maybe it’s time …

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Some thoughts on low sexual desire.

Relational or psychological issues can cause or at least contribute to low sexual desire. In my practice, I’ve seen people who have been ambivalent about their relationships from day one, yet are baffled as to why they don’t want to jump into bed with their partners. I have met people who feel that they are …

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Find your clitoris.

I was having a conversation with a 72 year old friend of mine. Me: “So, you never thanked me for that vibrator I sent you.” She:”I had no idea what to do with it.” Me: “hey, I sent it with that great book, Sex For One” (the book’s by Betty Dodson, in case any of …

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