Should I be Using an Estrogen Cream?

Estrogen creams are for peri or post-menopausal women experiencing symptoms of vaginal atrophy. It occurs because of the lower estrogen levels in the blood after menopause. The skin becomes drier and less elastic, causing such symptoms as burning, pain with intercourse, and even urinary incontinence. Estrogen creams work locally, as opposed to hormone replacement therapy …

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Diagnosing Dyspareunia (Vaginal Pain)

Dyspereunia. Admittedly, it’s not a flowery word, and it’s not a walk in the park for those who are diagnosed with it. Dyspereunia is an umbrella term that describes several types of negative pelvic sensations that women may experience. Discomfort in the vulvar region or pain with intercourse, vaginal muscle spasms that prevent penetration – …

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Brain Power

Our brains deserve credit for much of our sexual functioning. Once underlying physiological factors are addressed, we need to exercise the pleasure centers in the brain to boost libido and arousal. How do we do this? Reading erotica and engaging in fantasy are known to positively foster sexuality. They are vehicles that allow us to …

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Ask Away

Are we asking each other enough questions and are we truly listening to the answers? You know how when you pass by someone and ask, “How are you?” you walk on assuming they have answered “Fine”? Kalina Silverman ran a research project named Big Talk and concluded that we need to skip the small talk …

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Pressure.

Everyone experiences it, and these days, it’s like we’re all living in one giant, steamy, anxiety-inducing, Instant Pot (no disrespect, Instant Pot – I am truly, madly and deeply in love with you). No one’s immune, not the elderly, not millennials – not even preschoolers. I heard a mom call in to a radio show …

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Confidence

On the TV show Inside The Actors Studio, one of the questions host James Lipton asks is “What is your favorite word?” When I play along, I must admit it’s hard for me to narrow down a favorite. Some days I’ll think my word is hope, other days it’s flexibility, but today I’m choosing confidence. …

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4 Things to Know About Vaginismus Treatment Under Anesthesia

We have been using Botox to treat Vaginismus here at Congtythamtu for almost 10 years now.  It has been a life changer for so many patients who have had difficulty getting started with dilation. Not many practices perform this procedure, so I would like to take this opportunity to answer some frequently asked questions. Does …

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Feelings……………….

Feelings have been the subject of poems, songs, dance, stories, books, movies and yet fully experiencing our feelings can be a mystery to us. Blame and criticism can inhibit our ability to feel our feelings. How we should and shouldn’t be feeling is a frequent refrain in our heads. Feelings are just what they are …

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Yes Virginia, Parents DO Have Sex!

Kids bring parents joy and love and hugs and kisses. And they also throw an epic wrench into the sex lives of even the most randy of couples.  As newborns, babies challenge our literal humanity with crying jags and sleep interruption the likes of which rival military torture. Then they begin to wiggle out of …

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Is the G-Spot Real? Depends on Who you Ask

Ask a woman about existence of the G-Spot, and you’ll likely either receive a firm confirmation or flat-out denial. Why is the G-Spot – after 68 years of it’s discovery by Ernst Grafenberg – still so controversial? This question speaks to how little we know about this area of the vagina that gives epic pleasure …

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